One evening during my recent stay at Cloona Health Retreat Centre Loretta, a psychotherapist, gave a talk on ‘Food and Feeling’. As I sat with my fellow guests, waiting for Loretta to arrive, I was feeling pretty smug as I knew I was an eating and body issue free zone. The loud thump mid way through her talk was the sound of me falling to earth as I realized that actually I do have issues.
Among other things, Loretta spoke about the way so many of us use highly critical language when talking about our bodies; harsh critical words that we wouldn’t dream of using when talking to someone else. Sadly I recognized myself. She suggested we might find it interesting and useful to write a letter to our body and to have our body write a reply. Here goes.
I have never spoken to you before, which I regret, as I now realize I have so much to thank you for. Via you I have been blessed with good health; I have been able to work, travel, laugh, run, and do all manner of other things which I am prone to take for granted.
Most of all I want to say how very sorry I am for the constant criticisms I have levelled at you over the years; there was always some bit of you that didn’t match up to my utterly unrealistic expectations. Mea culpa.
I hope you can forgive me. I plan to strive to appreciate you more and to rein in the criticisms. I hope we can now live together in greater harmony.
Love from me
Thank you for your letter. I was so very pleased and relieved to receive it; in truth I don’t feel I am even a fraction as bad as you have always thought I am.
I am glad that we are to try for a more harmonious coexistence. It would be lovely if we could make a start by agreeing that actually I am not overweight and stop the never-ending on-off struggle to shift a few pounds. All is forgiven.
Love from your body.
Note: I am in agreement with my body about my (our) weight.